I date. I dig Social Media. And I spend a lot of time thinking about both. Because the problem is, like I always say, that in dating and in social media, it’s the blind leading the blind. Well, now, I think it’s time to pin down some answers. And that is what has inspired the latest feature of “The Misadventures of Julie”: Dating 2.0. Each week we’ll tackle a dating situation made sticky by this wired world we live in. I’ll ask for your opinion. I’ll give you mine. It’ll be fun, I promise. And maybe we’ll even set some standards along the way.
Last time we had a lively debate about whether or not it is acceptable to getting a potential date’s phone number off Facebook. This week, a digital dating dilemna straight from a Google search that led some poor soul to “The Misadventures of Julie” only to find I can’t (yet) provide an answer:
Read on to see what I have to say:
To be honest, this is an issue that I’ve struggled with myself. At times, I avoid even giving out MY LAST NAME because of how Google-able I am. Finding my blog and everything I write is a little intense for a potential gentleman caller especially if done by someone who is not in the social media world…
For the general public, here’s my suggestion: wait until after the third date.
Unfortunately, the ability to find out so much about a person in preparation for a date has ruined the fun and changed the way we get to know someone. I am an expert Googler/Facebook searcher but once you’ve found that person’s information, the mystery and intrigue is diminished.
I think there’s a general consensus out there that if you’ve gone on three dates with someone, things are going well and you both see some sort of a potential future with each other. Facebook friending someone after the third date is the perfect amount of time to wait – it expresses a desire to grow the relationship in a new way without seeming too eager – all the while allowing you to get to know the other person where it really matters: offline.
Have a Dating 2.0 question of your own? Submit it here and you may just see it on “The Misadventures of Julie” in the future!