What Really Grinds My Gears: Facebook Event Non-RSVPers

I have recently been receiving quite a bit of traffic to this website from those who have specific questions about Facebook functionalities. If YOU are one of those people, I am more than happy to do my best to answer your question. To do so, simply leave your question in the form of a comment on this post. Hope this helps!

Dear Facebook Friend,

When I send out an Event Invite on our beloved social networking site, I am legitimately inviting you to a gathering I’m hosting. You know this because I don’t send you invites upon invites to places I won’t be or events that just promote businesses. There aren’t 10,000 or even 1,000 or even 100 people on the invite list. It’s just you and our other (real-life) friends!

No, when I send you that invite, it means I want you to be there (or at least to know about the event). So when you completely ignore my invite and don’t bother to RSVP whether you’ll be attending or not (or even if you aren’t sure), I am disappointed by your rudeness.

The Facebook invite is just an evolution of paper invites, e-mail invites, evite invites… You get the picture. I’m using Facebook as my medium of choice because, let’s face it, I know you check the site an absurd amount of times each day.

I’m sending out the invite so that I can prepare accordingly. As an good host will tell you, knowing whether fifteen or fifty people are attending can make a huge difference in how much food, seating, etc to arrange.

Would you ignore a phone call? (Well, maybe…) Would you not send back a wedding RSVP card? (That’s more like it.) No, this isn’t my wedding, but it’s probably damn important to me if I’m taking the time to plan the event and send out invites of any kind.

So, please, when you get my next invite, remember your manners and let me know if I’ll be seeing you…And I promise to always return the favor.



  • Sarahbff

    I don't think you should use cuss words, it lowers the overall feeling of the note.