Comments on: Dating 2.0 – DOs & DON’Ts http://www.julieminevich.com/dating-20-dos-donts/ Sat, 24 Dec 2011 13:15:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: dsaxman http://www.julieminevich.com/dating-20-dos-donts/comment-page-1/#comment-28854 dsaxman Wed, 06 May 2009 17:00:28 +0000 http://www.julieminevich.com/?p=1005#comment-28854 Julie - I had this conversation with a friend over the weekend - great timing ;-) I think I'm fairly old fashioned in certain aspects, and phoning/texting before *you* give me your number is a definite don't. If there's some expedited situation in which I need to get in touch with you, in a really extreme circumstance, that might be the only exception, but it's just polite for me to wait for you to give me your number (ahem.. winkwink). It's more of a convenience for friends to have it posted there, not an invitation to give me a call out of the blue, and I will *not* be happy if you decide to start texting me jokes and so forth without me saying it's okay to do so - so in that regard, I think it does *help* the first date/dating experience in that you can filter out the people who don't have that sense of invitation if that is something that you personally are concerned with. Julie – I had this conversation with a friend over the weekend – great timing ;-) I think I’m fairly old fashioned in certain aspects, and phoning/texting before *you* give me your number is a definite don’t. If there’s some expedited situation in which I need to get in touch with you, in a really extreme circumstance, that might be the only exception, but it’s just polite for me to wait for you to give me your number (ahem.. winkwink). It’s more of a convenience for friends to have it posted there, not an invitation to give me a call out of the blue, and I will *not* be happy if you decide to start texting me jokes and so forth without me saying it’s okay to do so – so in that regard, I think it does *help* the first date/dating experience in that you can filter out the people who don’t have that sense of invitation if that is something that you personally are concerned with.

]]> By: David http://www.julieminevich.com/dating-20-dos-donts/comment-page-1/#comment-28848 David Wed, 06 May 2009 16:48:11 +0000 http://www.julieminevich.com/?p=1005#comment-28848 I should preface my response by saying that I'm a severe online stalker. I will go to great lengths to find out details about someone I've met. Nothing illegal. And nothing I'd be embarrassed about sharing down the line. But I certainly get information. That being said, I think a phone call is a different form of "invasion". Why do we have a Do Not Call list and not yet a Do Not Email/Mail/Facebook list? I think there's a reason... In this scenario, I would enjoy the privacy of the privata FB message and get the ball rolling that way - and hope the offline avenues are offered shortly thereafter. I should preface my response by saying that I’m a severe online stalker. I will go to great lengths to find out details about someone I’ve met. Nothing illegal. And nothing I’d be embarrassed about sharing down the line. But I certainly get information.

That being said, I think a phone call is a different form of “invasion”. Why do we have a Do Not Call list and not yet a Do Not Email/Mail/Facebook list? I think there’s a reason…

In this scenario, I would enjoy the privacy of the privata FB message and get the ball rolling that way – and hope the offline avenues are offered shortly thereafter.

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